For some steps seem too big for a still head. They are so preoccupied with the ego that they see no possibility to escape. They may get professional help with understanding as they point out the roles they play and the beliefs they have. If they then help to find out what that pattern is created (for instance by experience), they can take it away.
When I encounter myself in such an ingrained role than I imagine that I delete that old “program” from my computer. On the screen “Are you sure you want to delete this program?”. I click OK and I’ve cleaned up a bit of rubbish.
What also helps me with my mind off. Please allow my mind to a place where I feel all right. In my case this is a beautiful beach on the Spanish north coast, surrounded by rocks and pine trees, a cloudless blue sky with bright sunshine and crystal clear azure waters. This is the place for my new programs that replace the old. Because I feel good here and not just give attention to unpleasant thoughts that shrink tormentors together.
Also you can just do something else than the activity that you got some thoughts.
We have seen that thoughts are not bad. Contrary thoughts are very necessary for ordering the Energy Superhighway. It is however to be able to choose your thoughts and ideas beyond touchable choice. A still head helps.